Sofia, a UK blogger, has written a really useful guide, alongside a printable list of interview questions (at the end of her post) you can ask a therapist.
Someone asked me if I had some suggestions for sexual healing after abuse. Here's 3 books I am working my way through, and why I like them. Click the title to read more.
Home for me isn't the flat I live with my family=of-origin. Home for me is my partner's house in Norway. I am so glad that I braved my first ever "flying alone" flights to visit B despite immense anxiety and parental pressure preying on that anxiety. This is my 3rd year flying alone to Norway.... Continue Reading →
Yes, this. A great read on the lack of consent, sexual violence and rape culture in Evangelical purity culture.
(This post is not explicit but does discuss elements of abuse and the normalization of sexual violence in the church. It may make some uncomfortable, especially those with histories of trauma. If you feel this applies to you, there’s no pressure to read it.)
Father-daughter purity balls, abstinence-only campaigns, Christian dating literature and Bible devotionals have implications not only on how a young girl is to interpret her role in her evangelical community but also significantly impacts her understanding of her own sexuality.
Power and control are the foundational elements of an abusive relationship. Purity culture uses these concepts, as well as fear, to (directly or indirectly) maintain male power over women. In terms of sexuality, the combination of these elements results in young girls and women being silenced and shamed for natural sexual desires.
Consent, or lack thereof.
Women have very little, if any, bodily autonomy…
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Less than 30 hours till I land in B's country for summer holidays! Far, far away from my family, and hopefully with minimal contact with them. This year, my parents were the most forceful to date about "Do you want us to come along?" The answer is, and has always been a firm "No!" each... Continue Reading →
As an East Asian, assigned female at birth human, a common stereotype is that we all have black, thin, soft, silky smooth, pin-straight, sleek hair. I didn't have that: My hair is a very dark brown, thick, coarse, wavy, and very prone to frizz in humid weather. I, like other curly haired kids, had caregivers... Continue Reading →
I don't tend to write happy stuff here, partly because I'm focused on enjoying those moments. However, I do like to document as it's nice to look back and jog my poor memory. I prefer my private Instagram for my photos of outings with friends, because I plan on keeping them anonymous, and partly because... Continue Reading →
Inheritance If we, the children of the meek,should inherit an earthwhose rainforest lungsbreathe a tale of waste –an earth where the ailing seashudders in its own slickIf we, the children of the meek,should inherit an earthwhere the grass goes nostalgicat the mere mention of greenand the sky looks out of its depthwhen reminded of blueIf... Continue Reading →
uwu-chan: hey like, if you happen to do something abusive because of your mental illness. you still gotta apologize for it???? you still have to accept responsibility??? you can’t expect the people around you to just suck it up when you hurt them because you’re mentally ill. claidilady: spiraling further and self-deprecation/calling urself a monster... Continue Reading →
Today, an acquaintance on Instagram linked me this: https://www.instagram.com/p/By7pkUMJK8R/ That image above about "the enmeshed parent doesn't want the child to be independent because the parent fears abandonment" is my mother to a tee. It stirs up a deep anger within me these days. It's progress from crushing shame. The countless times she threw me... Continue Reading →
Artist: Kori MicheleOriginal link: https://korimichele.myportfolio.com/lets-talk-about-bisexuality